I do not sit there and criticise every part of that girls body – thinking about what she should change, what part she needs to tone up, what she should eat less of, what she should eat more of. Yet as girls, we do this to ourselves, daily, frequently almost obsessively.
I would not sit and criticise every inch of another girls body, in fact I would encourage them to ‘own’ whatever body they have. So why do we do this to ourselves? Am I too thin? Too fat? Too curvy? Too straight shaped? Should I have had that last cocktail? How many calories is in that?
The beauty and fashion industry makes millions and millions of pounds yearly off guess what? Our own insecurities. Because guess what? If we all decided “f*ck’ it I love who I am!” – I don’t need Spanx, fad diets, push up bras, teeth whiteners extensions, eyelash extensions, waist trainers, fake nails (the list goes on). Then the fact is, these multi-million pound industries would go bust.
The thing is I actually LOVE make up, I love enhancing my figure, I love anything that will make the most of what I already have. But here’s the catch, if you are relying on endless products to live up to an unrealistic expectation of beauty then you will never be happy.
I threw away my scales a long time ago – I’m not interested in what I weigh. What if I’m feeling fab that day and weigh myself and I’ve put on a few pounds? My mood will instantly change and so too, will my opinion of how I look and by default, how I feel about myself.
We are bombarded with images of flawless female (and male) bodies daily, celebrities, models even strippers and porn stars! A lot of the time it may be as a result of exercise and hard work (pole dancing is actually a really hard exercise FYI) but mostly it’s surgery or air brushing. Most of us know this by now, I mean jeez if your a blogger you probably own Photoshop yourself. You know how it can change you. You can actually re-create yourself digitally with a click of a button to make you look thinner, darker, lighter. We know the tricks of the trade. So why do we still strive to be a Photo-shopped version of perfection that doesn’t actually exist?
It’s easy to compare ourselves to the shiny polished Instagram models and the girls in the magazines – but that’s all they are a polished, filtered version. Sure they are beautiful but so are you, we all are. Even if you are not what the industry deem ‘attractive’ be your own version of beautiful.
Different is good, different is better. Besides beauty is in the eye of the beholder and you are all beautiful to me.