How to FINALLY accept your body

How to FINALLY accept your body

I do not sit there and criticise every part of that girls body – thinking about what she should change, what part she needs to tone up, what she should eat less of, what she should eat more of. Yet as girls, we do this to ourselves, daily, frequently almost obsessively.

I would not sit and criticise every inch of another girls body, in fact I would encourage them to ‘own’ whatever body they have. So why do we do this to ourselves? Am I too thin? Too fat? Too curvy? Too straight shaped? Should I have had that last cocktail? How many calories is in that?

The beauty and fashion industry makes millions and millions of pounds yearly off guess what? Our own insecurities. Because guess what? If we all decided “f*ck’ it I love who I am!” –  I don’t need Spanx, fad diets, push up bras, teeth whiteners extensions, eyelash extensions, waist trainers, fake nails (the list goes on). Then the fact is, these multi-million pound industries would go bust.


The thing is I actually LOVE make up, I love enhancing my figure, I love anything that will make the most of what I already have. But here’s the catch, if you are relying on endless products to live up to an unrealistic expectation of beauty then you will never be happy.

I threw away my scales a long time ago – I’m not interested in what I weigh. What if I’m feeling fab that day and weigh myself and I’ve put on a few pounds? My mood will instantly change and so too, will my opinion of how I look and by default, how I feel about myself.

We are bombarded with images of flawless female (and male) bodies daily, celebrities, models even strippers and porn stars! A lot of the time it may be as a result of exercise and hard work (pole dancing is actually a really hard exercise FYI) but mostly it’s surgery or air brushing. Most of us know this by now, I mean jeez if your a blogger you probably own Photoshop yourself. You know how it can change you. You can actually re-create yourself digitally with a click of a button to make you look thinner, darker, lighter. We know the tricks of the trade. So why do we still strive to be a Photo-shopped version of perfection that doesn’t actually exist?

It’s easy to compare ourselves to the shiny polished Instagram models and the girls in the magazines – but that’s all they are a polished, filtered version. Sure they are beautiful but so are you, we all are. Even if you are not what the industry deem ‘attractive’ be your own version of beautiful.

Different is good, different is better. Besides beauty is in the eye of the beholder and you are all beautiful to me.






  1. June 1, 2016 / 11:42 am

    Your attitude though ✌️

    The images you use are always so perfect for the tone of your posts too… Love it!


    • Blonde Ambition
      June 1, 2016 / 2:35 pm

      Ahhh thank you lovely! Xo

  2. Jess
    June 1, 2016 / 6:06 pm


  3. June 4, 2016 / 8:01 pm

    Love this! I think it’s also important to have a good attitude about our bodies, especially when you have little ones running around. I know I’ve recently had to change my attitude because I don’t want my daughter having the same insecurities I do. I might actually blog about it soon too! 🙂

    • Blonde Ambition
      June 6, 2016 / 1:09 pm

      Oooooh would love to read! Let me know if you do a post! 🙂 and thank you! xx

  4. June 4, 2016 / 8:52 pm

    Love this, such an important reminder of what beauty should be about – loving yourself in every shape and form, not judging your body to a constantly changing society’s impossible standards.

    • Blonde Ambition
      June 6, 2016 / 1:10 pm

      Yes! Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes and as long as you are happy that’s all that counts ! Xo

  5. caroline
    June 5, 2016 / 4:33 pm

    All too true! Great post!
    I think it’s all about being healthy, rather than your shape or weight.
    Just be healthy and happy. 🙂


    • Blonde Ambition
      June 6, 2016 / 1:09 pm

      Definitely! As long as you are happy that is all that matters 🙂 x

  6. June 7, 2016 / 10:12 pm

    Love this Post Hayley!!! =) You are so right we are so quick to judge other women based purely on how they look mainly through jealousy and wanting to look like them if they dare to look just a little better than we do! We’re so bombarded with images of perfection each and everyday that it can be hard to see the wheat from the chaff and see the real images that we (and all those models/bloggers etc) post every single day. We so need to just learn to embrace our own bodies however they look but more than that we need to stop being so harsh to everyone else too! Because only once we’ve stopped being so critical and judgemental will we see a turnaround in this kind of behaviour and perhaps just see each other as friends and not enemies??
    Brilliant Post Hayley thanks so much for raising such an important issue.

    • Blonde Ambition
      June 8, 2016 / 9:05 am

      Hi Sarah,

      Thank you for such a thoughtful response! Absolutely, I think hating your own body and other peoples is a trait that as a society happens everyday but is one of the worst things you can do! Not comparing ourselves to airbrushed images is key and learning to love our flaws! We need to raise each other up as women not bring each other down! x

  7. August 11, 2017 / 4:28 pm

    This is an amazing post. I agree we should learn to be good to ourselves. Self-love is important

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