There’s always going to be someone that doesn’t see your worth. Don’t let it be you.
Women have this crazy sixth sense that makes us aware of things energetically, that makes us hyper aware that we are settling for less than we deserve. We all have it. You know it and I know it, it’s time to use this as the superpower that it is.
If you are questioning whether a situation or person is right for you, they are not. When it is right, there will be no questioning, there will be no second guessing. You will know. Trust the signs. Trust the red flags. Trust your intuition when you feel something isn’t right or if you feel you deserve more.
Stop over romanticising people.
Knowing your worth is about not over-romanticising people to the point of missing/ ignoring red flags. A lot of the time, when we cannot recognise our own self worth it’s because we place an astronomical amount of worth on others who are sometimes (most of the time) undeserving. We put them on a pedestal and ourselves on the floor. This narrative has been embedded into women for centuries; we are the carers, the doers, the nurturers. We are not the ones on the pedestal, we are more than likely propping the pedestal up and shining it for others. We are taught as women that we are secondary, that it is not ‘ladylike’ to put ourselves first, to stand up for ourselves. This of course, is designed to keep us small and tie our worth into what we can for others rather than ourselves.
If a toxic friendship, family member, job or relationship is hindering you and making you question your worth don’t hesitate to walk away and cut them off. It doesn’t matter if you have known them for 10 years, it doesn’t matter if they were good to you 5 years ago. They aren’t good for you now. Cut them off. It’s not worth losing yourself, your happiness or your peace.
The brutal truth is sometimes your longest and closest friends/partners can hurt you the most. It’s a bitch, it truly is, I am not trying to make this sound easy, it’s not. It hurts like hell. And I assure you, a friendship break up can be a hell of a lot more painful then a relationship ending. But let’s look at the alternative? Sticking around getting the only bit of self worth you have left, stamped all over by the very people who are supposed to love you? I don’t think so queen. Not on my watch.
Forgive them, forgive yourself and move on. Let them go. Don’t be holding yourself back like that.
Self love is the best love, in fact it is necessary for survival. Despite what we have been taught as women, self love transcends love for other people. Once you find love for yourself you will not spend another minute settling for a life you do not deserve, another minute being in a relationship that drags you down. You won’t let anyone treat you less than you know you are worth.
People have the right to not like you.
Some people will never see your worth, and that’s okay, they are not your people. That’s their own business. They do not need to be around you. Cut them off. Your job is to make sure you love yourself, despite who likes you or not.
Keep being you. Keep shining your light. That’s all that really matters. Don’t let other people’s issues throw you off course. Forward movement only.