First of all I am sorry that you have had to go through this, I can only imagine how hard this is for you, and I am sending you virtual hugs and love! Thank you for coming to me as I know it’s hard to speak to close family and friends without them having judgment on your decision.
There are a couple of things that happen when someone cheats on you – you’re swarmed with feelings of insecurity, “Why wasn’t I enough?” and broken trust, “What if he does that again?” This can last months, even years, even if you decide to leave. The truth is cheating really crushes a person and the impact is heartbreaking.
Okay so here is how I see it, you have three key options – either the two of you need to figure out why he felt the need to step out on the relationship – and work on fixing it. Or you learn to forgive him but also forget him or you could end it all together and let it haunt you.
What you must do out of all these options is forgive him, even if you decide to leave. If you do not forgive, you will carry the resentment with you into your life and potentially other relationships. Do not let another persons actions poison you. You are the innocent one, you do not deserve to suffer. So cry, allow yourself to be sad and feel what you are going through, but then forgive and let go – when you’re ready.
Having said that, life isn’t black and white and everybody makes mistakes. Especially when they’re young. If it was a onetime mistake it may be a lot easier to forgive and stay. But generally cheating is irreparable in a relationship. As tempting as it is to stay with someone, can you honestly trust your man again?
Everyone is different and you need to listen to the guiding small voice inside you – your intuition. Trust your gut and take a leap of faith. Maybe that means trusting your boyfriend after he cheated…or maybe it’s letting him go. Only you can make that decision. The truth is love blinds us, and sometimes (more often than not) we look back at our past relationships and wonder why we put up with it for so long. One of the most important questions you can ask yourself is this: would you encourage your sister or best friend to stay with him? If the answer is yes, then maybe you should give your boyfriend another chance to prove he loves you. If it is no – and you have to be honest with yourself – then do you think your worth more than being betrayed?
You have your whole life ahead of you, and although I do not know you personally, I know that you deserve the best that life and a relationship can give you. We only have this one life – so if staying with this guy is how you want to spend your life so be it. But always remember your worth.
I honestly hope you come to a decision that makes you happy, regardless of others opinions and thanks so much for your question and wearing your heart on your sleeve!
What do my lovely followers think? Have you been cheated on and forgiven the person? Or have you cheated and been forgiven?
Thanks for reading as always