1. Develop positive thinking. First of all, before we get into the strategy and actions that you can take to change your life. It’s so important to talk about the power of a positive mentality. I put this first because I think having a positive mentality is so, so important to help anyone make changes in their life.
I’ve learnt this many times in my life — when I allowed myself to think negative thoughts, I would end up failing – pretty much every single time. But when I learned how to squash negative thoughts and think positive ones instead, I succeeded. And even if I failed, my mindset would turn the failure into a positive. This discovery lead to me practicing this over and over, until I was able to form just about any habit I needed.
Focus on this step first, and you’ll have a much easier time with any of the others. Start by becoming more aware of your negative self-talk — do a little tally sheet throughout the day, marking a tally each time you notice a negative thought. Soon you’ll recognize them, and you can get rid of them.
2) Create a vision for your life 5 or even 10 years from today. It’s hard to imagine that things can get better when your going through a rubbish time, or you don’t enjoy your job or your feeling zero motivation but the power of visualisation is so key to making changes. When I started my 5 year vision board, I was living in an apartment in a toxic relationship, doing a job I didn’t like and to be honest I didn’t really even like myself. My current life then and my ideal future were DRAMATICALLY different. If yours are too, it’s time to make a big change. What are you waiting for? Think of how much can happen in one year if you just take the first step — today. Which is exactly why I created this mindshift programme Year Of You, because so much can change.
3) Devise your short-term strategy. All big life changes begin with a baby steps. Mine was quitting my full time job this month and shamelessly chasing after my own dreams like a mad women on a mission. But Rome wasn’t built in a day. So make sure your big goals are matched with consistent daily action. When you see people achieve great success, it is tempting to believe that there was one big thing which they did to achieve that success.
4) Figure out who you are and what your core values are One of the hardest aspects of making a huge life change is shifting the way others see you AND more importantly, the way you see yourself. Realising the passion behind your fear and self-doubt will help you steer the direction which you want to change your life. Find something you love and no matter how long it takes dedicate yourself to it.
When you are commited to changing your life, understanding your values can really help. When you know your own values, you can use them to make decisions about how to live your life, and you can answer questions like these:
- What job should I pursue?
- Should I stay in this relationship?
- Should I start my own business?
- Should I follow tradition, or travel down a new path?
4) Sacrifice. I’m going to be real honest here: I haven’t got huge savings in the bank or wealthy parents to rely on, but I still decided to take the leap. But what I AM going to have to give up in order to chase my dreams are all those little things I used to buy unconsciously when my paycheck was coming in every month. No more £5 coffees. No more £15 cocktails *sigh*. No more nights out on the town where I am waking up unsure where all your money went. I’ve cancelled all unnecessary subscriptions and took a vow of shop-lessness this year. Yep you aren’t seeing things, my New Year’s resolution this year is to not buy ANYTHING unnecessary such as clothes, shoes, jewelry, or non-essential toiletries for one entire year (please pray for your girl!). I am making absolutely sure that I am not self sabotaging my dreams by wasting all of my money. I am confident that my income will gradually increase and I can get back to browsing ASOS sales but in the meantime I’m living like a college student again and am 100 percent fine with that.
Quitting your job, becoming an entrepreneur, starting a business, moving to a new country, going back to school, traveling the world for six months, running away and joining the circus whatever your heart desires are all AMAZING changes to make in the Year Of You , but they don’t necessarily mean instant success or money coming into your bank account ever month like working your 9-5 does. Think about what you your needs, your wants, and what you can live without and if you can and are willing to make the sacrifices.
5) Be careful who you surround yourself with I don’t care if you’ve been best friends since school or your mom’s only negative because, “she loves you.” Ignore them. Only a very few people are going to encourage you to change your status quo. Leave the comfort zone. Make a bold move. Some of the opposition will be people who do truly care for you and have your best interest in mind. Accept their concern but keep it moving. If they REALLY care, they’ll be there to comfort you on dark days as well as to cheer for you when you begin to gain some momentum on your dream-chasing.
And then there’s the haters. Oh yes, can’t forget the haters. They might not specifically hate you, but they WILL shit on your dream. They’ll do it outwardly or passive aggressively. They’ll tell you to your face and/or talk behind your back. I know, because I used to be a hater. I used to think people who started their own companies were crazy or living on mommy and daddy’s dime or egomaniacs who couldn’t get good jobs elsewhere. I know now in hindsight that I felt that way because I was jealous of these upstarts. And terrified of leaving the security of my own “good job.” Don’t hate them back. It’s a waste of your energy, and you need ALL your energy to keep moving on your path. I’ve discovered haters are really just the owners of deferred dreams. Dryin’ up like raisins in the sun. Haters are like the scary things that pop out during a haunted house ride. Yes, they’ll be all up in your face but they ain’t nothin’ real to be scared of.
6). DON’T GIVE UP. Do yourself a favour and don’t give up. Once you’ve started, just don’t look back. Don’t start thinking “What if?” or wonder what would happen if you had stayed on the old path. Things won’t always go smoothly. There will always be failures and mistakes and road blocks, and probably a lot of haters and trolls. It won’t be easy but it will get easier. You’ll get the hang of the new you and your new life. Always remember that you have the power to do, think, achieve, say, have, and be anything in the world. It’s true. If others can do it, so can you.
“And I say it again, Never give up. No matter what is happening. No matter what is going on around you. Never give up.” — The Dalai Lama