Why it’s okay not to have it all figured out, at any age.

Why it’s okay not to have it all figured out, at any age.

Is it wrong to live in a Peter Pan society? Do we ever ‘grow up?’

“The moment you doubt whether you can fly, you cease for ever to be able to do it.”

I spoke to my friend recently who had just turned 30, “it’s weird” she said “when I was younger I assumed when I got to age 30, I would have my whole life together, figured out who I was, you know?”

Age is a funny concept, almost like we define a particular age with an event. “I want to be married by 28” I hear a lot of people say. Do you? Why? Have you been told that this is what you’re supposed to do by society? You may even be single at the moment, the idea of thinking or knowing that’s what you will want when you get to that age or with that person (who you haven’t even met yet) is nonsensical and can cause so much pressure on us that we forget the most important thing, happiness. The universe may have different plans for you. And it’s important to trust the process and timing of your life.

“If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans.”

Through each stage of our life requires us to show up in a different way, and everyone leads a different path.  Often we don’t even realise who we are meant to be – or what we are truly destined for – because we’re so busy trying to live out someone else’s idea of how our life should be or the societal pressures that creep up on us around the age of 25 – infact before that – probably the day you graduate.

Have we become so busy buckling under the pressure of ‘age’ and set out systematic life plans that we forget to live in our own truth?

This may sound quite gruesome, but age is subjective. Say someone passes away at 30 – their time is ‘cut short’. Someone who lives until their 40 does not have the same time on this beautiful planet as someone who dies at 70. Therefore, age is relative. a number doesn’t define your life path. Being older is an actual privilege, many people will never get to see 20 years old let alone 30. So do yourself a favour, and stop being so hard on yourself, no matter what age you are. Don’t compare your chapter 3 to someone else’s chapter 14. Do not let other people and their opinions hold power in defining your destiny.
The key to truly becoming who are you are supposed to be and living the life that is best for you, is to surrender YOUR plans, dreams, and goals to your own truth. Do not let your life be shaped by societal pressures of where and who you are supposed to be at a certain age. You have one shot at this life, live in your own truth.


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  1. July 13, 2017 / 10:43 am

    So true lovely, societal pressures can really break the spirit I think – especially for those who maintain you need to have your life together so young when really we’re all learning and growing constantly. I am LOVING your blog atm and all your wonderful quotes – such an inspiration!! xxx

  2. August 31, 2017 / 1:18 pm

    Lovely post and so true. To be honest I am so sick and tired of people say “by this age you need to have XYZ figured out.” It’s a load of nonsense. Life is for living and it’s a journey, not a destination.

    I’ve ditched the age mentality and I feel so much more liberated. Now I just take things day by day. 🙂


    • Year of You
      September 7, 2017 / 8:23 am

      yes girl! Ditching the age mentality is really key! Still working on it! Thanks so much for all of your lovely comments! xox

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