You know the type, hair done, nails done, outfit on point. Gym kit on, coffee in hand, Macbook on her lap. The girl on the packed train who completes the on-fleek winged eye liner whilst balancing a Starbucks. I always thought these people were mythical creatures that knew some kind of secret that I didn’t. Although I haven’t quite mastered the wing eyeliner train combo (seriously it’s an art). I’ve come along way in becoming the positive woman I’ve always wanted to be.
And here’s the secret: there is no secret. It is just working on your self day in day out and showing up as your best self.
TAKING CARE OF MY MYSELF
Buying and taking vitamins. Drinking water. Getting my roots done before I look like Wednesday Adams. Getting my nails done, putting on a weekly face mask. Washing my clothes instead of buying more because I can’t be bothered. Exfoliating. Paying my bills on time. Starting a savings account. Getting out of toxic relationships and friendships. These all may seem like simple things but they add up quickly, small steps – giant leaps.
BECOMING VEGAN AND MEDITATING
I suffered from anxiety A LOT and I know that I had to make a change. Although I really do believe in taking medication if that’s what you need or your doctor advises. For me, I wanted to try and figure it out with my own body. As balance and happiness starts with you and it ends with you. Veganism and meditation has helped A LOT with my anxiety and overall health. It’s not about being a size 6, eating boatloads of kale and the latest superfoods, deprivation, or hours at the gym. Its about my mental and physical health and I am finally taking it into my own hands.
TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR MY OWN LIFE.
A crazy thing happens when you start to take responsibility for your own life, there’s no one else to blame. This is both a huge relief and suffocating at the same time. As my wise Mom always says “you make your bed and you lie in it, so make sure you make it well”. In a nutshell, your story is in your own hands and you and only you are the author and editor of your book. By accepting personal responsibility, you gain the freedom to create your own life, any way you want it. This is challenging for sure, but it’s helped me a lot.
WORKING OUT IN THE MORNING (YES EVERY MORNING)
At university I thought that 6am was a foreign concept, in which I occasionally rolled in drunk. The mere concept of me getting up at this time was quite simply laughable. But I have now managed to get into a routine that sees me up at 6am listening to daily affirmations and then going to a quick gym class. Again this has helped massively with my anxiety and focus at work. I’m going to be real here, I am tired more often, but its worth it.
BECOMING MY OWN BEST FRIEND.
This was the most difficult thing of all, but once I got used to the idea that I was worthy of my own love, I began to get the strange and wonderful feeling that I was becoming my own best friend. I’m still building this friendship with myself and, like any other relationship, it takes work, care, mindfulness, reflection, practice and patience. I have to remind myself every day that despite all of my shortcomings, I truly am worthy of love and kindness.
“I was fortunate to become the woman I always wanted to be.”
Diane von Furstenberg