Chit Chat Wednesdays: On not settling, embracing your weirdness and rejecting the status quo.

Chit Chat Wednesdays: On not settling, embracing your weirdness and rejecting the status quo.

I have SO many plans, so many ideas, so many places I want to live, so many countries to see, cultures to experience, people to love, things to learn. Sometimes it overwhelms me. The desire to live a life so full that when it comes to my last day on earth I can say I did not sit in comfort. I did not rest. I kept learning. I kept pushing myself, I experienced all that I could. And at a time where everyone is settling down I realise that I never want to settle.

The pressure of age has gotten to me recently but without sounding too much like a hippy, the feeling of having to have something by a certain age is just another way society tries to control us. I have to realise that I think differently to some others and embrace who I am and stop fighting it. Living an ordinary routine life scares me the most. And instead of being scared by this: my free soul, my wandering spirit, my thirst to live a different life to others I am going to start accepting it as my favourite part of me, because it makes me, well ME.

It’s okay to reject the status quo and not fit into what society considers as normal, who wants to be normal anyway?! Stay true to yourself. When people break out from the norm, a lot of the time others will not understand it. “Why aren’t you married? Why haven’t you got a mortgage yet? Why don’t you want a pension or a normal job? When are you having children? You can’t have multiple jobs! Why can’t you just stick to one thing?!” realise that when people ask you these things they are projecting their belief system on to you. This is not your truth. This is the pressure of society, and 9/10 coming from people who settled themselves. I have a great relationship with my boyfriend and  I have always wanted a lot of children and a life partner but this doesn’t mean that the other sides of my personality and desires for my life have to be hidden. Equally I know that a lot of women do not want any of these things and I need you to know that it’s absolutely FINE. In fact its great that women are breaking stereotypes.

Remember, many of the world’s most profound ideas and inventions were once laughed at, deemed strange or even insane – they definitely were not considered normal. Some of the smartest people in the world were once considered ‘crazy’. They weren’t “normal” simply because they allowed themselves to step outside of their comfort zone – which most people are just simply too scared to do. Stop trying to fit into a box not meant for you, maybe you were meant for a much bigger and brighter box, or maybe you were never meant for a box. I know I’m not. I am not one dimensional and I am learning to accept all parts of me. When you learn to accept your true nature, you learn to grow as a person.

There is beauty in the flaws and the rarities of your personality. Being different or thinking differently to the rest of society isn’t something we should deem as a negative.

The weird ones, the misfits, the travelers, the eccentrics- we are the geniuses, the lovers, the dreamers and the truly extraordinary.

Here’s to my messy, unpredictable, unstable future. I’m ready 🌎💡✨



  1. October 11, 2017 / 11:28 am

    Ahhh love this!!!

    I hate the expectations of doing this by certain point in your life. Why can we not freely live our own paths. Not everyone has the same journey throughout life.

    Hayley | hayleyxmartin

  2. October 11, 2017 / 11:37 am

    What a FAB post! I’m happy with settling down, having a good job, pension, kids and a husband. But that’s because that is what I’ve always wanted from life. It probably sounds mundane and routine to some people, just like to some your plans for life may seem crazy or unusual. But as long as you are doing what you love and what you want with life, who cares? You only get one shot at life, make it count!

    • Year of You
      October 11, 2017 / 11:51 am

      You know what i absolutely love this comment, it just shows that its okay to do whatever you want regardless of what that looks like to others, and like you with your future amazing family and work life that’s what you want so it’s not mundane it’s exactly what you love! Just like if someone doesn’t want that, that’s totally fine too! Thanks for commenting lovely! xox

  3. October 11, 2017 / 4:47 pm

    I’m totally with you – I always say that normal is boring! I get so fed up of people asking me when I’m going to have children because apparently it’s weird to be married and be in my late 20s and not have children. I will have children when I want to have them thank you very much! x

  4. October 13, 2017 / 1:34 pm


    I’ve never been the type of person to fit into a box or conform to society’s standards and you’re right – once you accept (and love) yourself, you can grow as a person.

    Being yourself is the best way to be.



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