SELF LOVE 101 – Whats your self love language?

SELF LOVE 101 – Whats your self love language?

We spend so much time pursuing our dream man/woman, that we forget that the greatest love affair we will have in this life is with ourselves.

Let’s be honest, we are the only ones who truly have our own backs and if we don’t love yourselves we become magnets to attract a whole lot of shitty people and shitty things into our lives (trust me I’ve been there).

We have all heard of love languages – how we feel love in different ways from other people. But what about self love? Here is the top 5 ways we can love ourselves. 

“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.”

Think about how you treat yourself on a daily basis. Think about all the self talk that goes on. Would you speak to your best friend like that?  Are you good to yourself? Are your thoughts kind to your body and soul?


You show love to yourself with words. So make sure you use your words to build yourself up. Keep up with constant and consistent positive self-talk. Be your biggest cheerleader. Journal! Write down everything about you that you are grateful and proud of. Document everything you accomplish, feel good about and like about yourself. Remember even the smallest accomplishments are an achievement. Small positive steps everyday = BIG success.


You show love to yourself by giving yourself what you need when you need it.  So make sure to take care of your basic needs and keep on top of your life. Create an organized, clean and aesthetically pleasing home environment for yourself. Love where you live, even if on a budget, make sure it looks beautiful. Keep on top of any paperwork and keep yourself busy.


Oooo girl you love a gift! But what better gift is there than to be able to spoil yourself. Invest in yourself. Buy only what you love, do not buy unnecessary things that clutter your space and energy. Don’t allow things in your home and wardrobe that do not bring you positive vibrations. As material possessions are important to you, its even more important that the meaning you place to your possessions so make sure they fill you up with joy.

Spend money on your hobbies – always wanted to learn to dance? Take classes. Always wanted to learn a different language? Hire a tutor! Buying yourself little gifts for your accomplishments is a big deal for you. So TREAT YO’ SELF!

Invest in yourself. Invest in your mental, emotional, and physical health. Gym memberships, therapists, spa days? All worth it.


Spend time on the things you love. Take some time for yourself, take yourself out on dates. Give yourself space and time to be and to simply explore who you are. Do not over-schedule, over-book or over-commit. Your life is worth more than being part of the rat race. Especially for you as time is your most important self love asset, use your evenings and weekends productively. And always remember to take time to work on yourself and your happiness.


You love physical touch! For self love, why not try yoga or meditation, massages and pampering. A good workout will get you more in touch with your body and get those endorphin’s going which is something we all need! Physically workouts and yoga are perfect for learning to love your body.

Pamper yourself by giving yourself weekly or monthly spa days where you do a skin care routine, deep condition your hair, take a fancy bubble bath (OMG LUSH BATH BOMBS), and use yummy lotion on yourself.

“ You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.” ~Buddha



  1. March 23, 2017 / 6:04 pm

    We definitely all need to have more self love and treat ourselves more x


  2. March 24, 2017 / 12:26 am

    This was such a good blog post. Really made me think about how I care for me. It’s so important to understand and know yourself and what makes you happy. Thanks for making me think!
    Over from we spoke earlier on twitter on a Blogger chat xx

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