The curse of the 20s.

Being a 20 something in this generation is pretty terrifying. So I thought this would be a good starting point for my first blog post as it consumes a wide scope (literally ten years) of your life that supposedly defines your entire existence, scary right? Colleges, degrees, marriage, children, careers, mortgages etc etc etc… traditionally, happen in your twenties. If any of these ‘buzz’ words scare you, join the club. You see what has become increasingly apparent as I go through my 20’s is that no one really has a clue what they are doing. Seriously. In fact no one really feels like an adult ever.

PEOPLE ARE ALWAYS PRETENDING.

The loved up couple on your Instagram feed sipping sangria on a beach probably had an argument earlier about who forgot the sun cream, the beautiful girl popping champagne on her 21st birthday was probably being sick half an hour later. Life isn’t an Instagram reel (this is, of course, a deeply upsetting fact I mean… imagine how you could look if Valencia filter could be applied to your face EVERYDAY. Alas the Beyoncé effect) – However we do not ‘wake up like this’ we are all real, we are all human, and without sounding like some crack pot hippy – we are all on a journey.

Some days I want to be swigging cheap vodka, falling around laughing with my best friends in a club that smells suspiciously like the insides of a bin (we’ve all been there). Other days I want to be happily married with children in a country manor house walking my puppies Timon and Pumba (judge me accordingly). None of these however, define me nor will they necessarily make me happy. We are not one dimensional and you should be proud of that. Cliché – but happiness isn’t a destination it is a journey, all of the good and the bad. Own the fact that you haven’t quite got your life together yet, where’s the excitement in that anyway?

 There are so many people in the world who postpone being happy.

They wait to have a big house, a big bank account, to have it all. I’m sorry to break it to you but happiness is an inside project and age is not a determining factor. I have spent so many of my years trying to figure out if what I was doing was ‘correct’ at that specific stage of my life. And what I’ve realised is no matter what journey you are on it is absolutely fine. What is not fine, is wasting your 20s. Do not put a curse upon your own journey because it doesn’t look like what you envisioned for yourself or comparing your journey to another’s. Enjoy your own vision – set your own vision. Go with what makes you happy and above all, enjoy it.

 

10 Comments

  1. Amy Tilleray
    April 20, 2016 / 10:23 pm

    Love this a lot 🙂
    Could hear your voice when reading this!!
    Girl of wisdom.
    I never forget talking about men (boys!) With you and the words of advice you gave me!
    The way you write is inspirational 😀 xxx

    • Budget Girl Xo
      April 21, 2016 / 10:55 am

      Thank you lovely! You inspire me too! Xo

  2. April 21, 2016 / 10:04 am

    Completely agree, happiness is about being content in that moment. Of course we should have goals and aspirations but our happiness should not be solely based on doing something.

  3. October 25, 2016 / 7:20 pm

    Really enjoyed this article! It was nice hearing it as though someone was talking to me not at me, and it’s a real feel good. I don’t feel like I’ve got it all together so it’s a nice reminder that we all share the same fears 🙂

  4. January 12, 2017 / 9:16 pm

    It really is difficult to find your way in this age when it’s filled with a ton of misleading information. What you see is not really what you get, and finding your path can be a challenge for sure. Such an insightful post, and it’s really got me thinking about perceptions and how that affects how we act.

  5. February 1, 2017 / 7:18 am

    I really enjoyed this post, thank you!
    I think the trouble with our generation is that we’ve generally been told at an early age that we can have/do whatever we want. When it actually comes to getting a full time job and working in the ‘real world’, we become miserable and start to feel like failures because we haven’t achieved exactly what we wanted to within the first few months.
    It’s very difficult to remind yourself that everything takes time, but you’ve managed it beautifully.

    • Year of You
      February 2, 2017 / 10:51 am

      Yes i completely agree, i think we are kind of hit very hard with reality after we graduate/ leave school. Taking each day as it comes and realising there is no shortcut to success is key! Thank you for reading!

  6. July 13, 2017 / 1:41 pm

    Loved this post and it really got to me, sometimes I do have that feeling that I’m wasting my twenties because I spend too much time comparing and wondering why my twenties isn’t like how I imagined.

    Julia // The Sunday Mode

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