The first step in building self-worth is to stop comparing yourself to others and criticizing your every move; remember nobody is perfect and perfect is boring anyway. You need to challenge your critical inner voice. The critical inner voice is like a nasty mean girl – think Regina George in mean girls – she lives inside our heads. And constantly nags us with destructive thoughts; ‘not good enough’ ‘not pretty enough’ ‘you will never achieve your dreams’ ‘you are not worthy’. This internal chat of critical thoughts – your inner ‘Regina George’ – undermines our sense of self-worth and leads to self-destructive behaviors, which make us feel even worse about ourselves and attracts some really toxic people into our lives. It’s a viscous cycle and one you really, really need to address to be truly happy.
Learning to love yourself is very difficult, our natural human psychological state is to survive, not necessarily be happy or feel worthy. That’s why working at our own happiness and self worth is a daily task, but I promise its worth it.
Too many people accept sh*tty jobs and relationships because they do not respect themselves enough to realise they deserve better. Too many people become complacent in key aspects of their lives and stop striving for greater things – friendships, relationships, jobs – because deep down they do not believe they are worthy. Every aspect of your life can be negatively impacted if you don’t realise your worth. This is why its so important to address your own sense of self worth and be your own cheerleader!
You need to reinforce your positive qualities by using using daily affirmations, eating well to take care of your body, meditating, exercising all of these things are a sign of respecting your mind and body. And if you do have negative traits (we all do) actively try to fix your negative qualities – do not see them as a bad thing – see them as a challenge to overcome.
Not only that – is your inner critic lying to you? Question it everyday. Is there any truth in the negative chatter you tell yourself everyday? Is it helping you in any way? Remember, when everything else in the world seems to be failing you, you will always have your self-respect to fall back on. How you feel about yourself affects every single aspect of your life and how others treat you. You are worthy of love, of respect and of a great life.
Value yourself regardless of your job and earnings, how many followers you have got or your body type. Yes we need money and yes we all would like to be successful and attractive. But really a job is a job, looks fade and success isn’t everything. Stop trying to find your self-worth through material possessions or outward influences. This it is not what life is about. Look around you and realise you have a lot more to be grateful for than you may realise.
I think that by caring so much about other people’s opinions we forget who really matters, you. Don’t let your own sense of ‘self’ gets mixed around in a stream of opinions, judgment’s, preconceived ideals that other people have used to define and judge you.
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